I have very little patience.
It's one of things I'm working on in my life.
Getting older has helped.
Patience is defined as the capacity to accept, endure or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry, upset or becoming negative.
I've come to believe that patience is a product of perspective.
It's also one of the most important “hope tools” needed to train and develop others.
Patience is the ability to see who a person is, when they are not that person.
I'm surrounded by young people in their teens and early twenties.
They're all crazy.
But this morning, something different began to happen in my heart, God began to show me a picture of who each of these young people are to Him in 20 to 30 years…
And you know what, they are beautiful — then and today.
Now I sound like the crazy one.
The most important thing a parent or leader can do is ask God how He sees and feels about the people we are entrusted to train, develop or lead… to ask God for a Jeremiah 29:11 picture of who they are to Him, the future and plans He has for them and, how He values and loves them.
Until and unless we see who people are to Him, we deal with them through the lens of their talent, promise, performance or whatever crazy thing they're doing at the moment.
The wonderful opportunity we have as leaders is to show others the Father's heart, and to use our words and our actions to help guide them to the truth about who they are and what they are called to be.
This requires us to endure with great patience the process of a person's life refusing words and actions that can crush them in these critical moments of growth.
This is one of the most important things anyone in leadership can decide and learn today.
Here are a few important questions to ask God about every person in your life, especially the younger ones and also anyone you are assigned to train, develop and lead:
(1) Ask God for a picture of who they are to Him?
(2) Ask God what specific lessons they are learning and that He is teaching them?
(3) Ask God what makes the person feel special and loved?
(4) Ask God what is their true calling and gifting?
(5) Ask God how to love them and care for their heart?
(6) Ask God for the top 3 to 5 things to reinforce or emphasize in this person's life over the next 12 months?
(7) Ask God what stage of development this person is in (start-up, growth, transition, turnaround, etc.)?
(8) Ask God what is needed for them to stay in hope (adjustments in mindset, lifestyle, time, etc.)?
Golden keys are being released to turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers — not just in the conventional sense, but also in business and in every other sphere of influence.
I want to be the kind of father, coach and leader who hopes in the next generation… one who sees, loves and patiently develops Psalms 1:3 champions in all of life.
I hope you do too.
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